Except for life and death emergency situations or where there truly is no one else, you cannot hear the sins of your father confessor. Nor should you allow any of your penitents to hear yours. Confession and absolution is not a reciprocal act. When you hear confession do not talk about yourself. Listen, judge, and then speak for God. Don’t tell them anything about your own experiences and struggles. They are not there to see you. They are there to hear Jesus’ voice. It is the same for you when you go to make confession. You need a Father Confessor, not a brother confessor.